Do You remember the movie “Groundhog
many people are trapped in their everyday habits:
part numb, part frightened, part indifferent?
To have a better lifewe must keep choosing how we’re living.
I think it was around 1993 or so. Bill Murray plays a weatherman
who gets assigned to cover the story of Punxsutawaney Phil – the Ground Hog who forecasts whether there will be six
more weeks of Winter or the arrival of Spring. Bill Murray’s character is also named Phil – he calls the Groundhog
Phil (Bill Murray – not the groundhog) finishes the story,
but a big snow storm comes through and traps him there for the night. The next day Phil wakes up only to discover it’s
Feb. 2nd all over again and he is reliving the same day over and over. If you haven’t seen the movie – rent it
or watch it when it comes back on TV as a rerun again, and again, and again.
now let me ask you a question. How much of your life is like Phil’s – the same thing over and over and over again.
Oh yeah, I know there are differences in each day, but overall, I would guess on the average about 90% of each day is the
same over and over.
Wait, what about weekends? Or days off from work? OK those days
are probably 90% the same as your other weekends and days off.
are they the same? Because our lives are ruled by habits.
do habits live? In our SubConscious. Thankfully! Imagine what it would be like if we didn’t have habits, and we actually
had to think about what we were doing all the time!
– now that’s a series of habits isn’t it? When’s the last time you seriously thought about how to
make a sandwich? Or how to brush your teeth?
When you get dressed – don’t you usually put your clothes
on in the exact same order each and every time? If you put your right sock on first, switch it up and put your left sock on
first – it feels a little awkward doesn’t it?
does all this talk of habits and our days being the same over and over again have to do with anything of importance? How could
learning more about habits and changing your daily routine change your life for the better? Most of our physical habits are
done without thinking, as I mentioned before – driving, brushing your teeth, getting dressed. I’m going to guess
we would all pretty much agree those are good things.
you had to think about every physical act – and mental thought processes -- required to drive our cars, it would make
driving very difficult. But then again, I think there are a lot of people out there who would benefit from actually thinking
while they’re driving. Thoughts like “why am I endangering my life and others by texting?” Or “maybe
I should slow down when the roads are icy or slick.” Or “oh it’s dark! Maybe I should turn my lights on.”
-- Well you get the picture.
What about brushing your teeth? One day, just for fun – try
brushing your teeth with your OTHER hand! If you normally brush with your right hand, use your left and vice versa. Slows
you down. Doesn’t it? And it feels awkward too! And you probably wouldn’t really do as good a job as you would
with the hand you normally brush with.
But, IF you were to continue day after day using the hand you don’t
normally use to brush your teeth, pretty soon you would get proficient at it. And then it wouldn’t feel awkward, it
wouldn’t take as long, and you’d do a good job of brushing your teeth with the other hand.
You probably don’t remember the first time you brushed your teeth. Some of you will. I know
I’ve got a friend who will say he remembers whether he does or not is totally irrelevant – he’ll say it
anyway. But I’m going to guess the first time you did, it wasn’t easy, but with practice you learned to do it
Why are we talking about this – especially about brushing teeth? Well, brushing your teeth
is a good habit! And maybe you’d like to have some more good habits. Maybe you’d even like to break some bad habits.
Think for a couple of minutes – what are some bad habits you’d like to get rid of? Of
course some of the most common ones are smoking, nail biting, over eating, procrastinating, always being late, over sleeping.
"It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them."
that you’ve thought about it, narrow it down to one – the one that by changing it or getting rid of it will improve
your life the most.
Now ask yourself this question – how long has that habit
been keeping you from having the life you want to have or being the person you want to be?
Have you “tried” to change it or stop it before? Of course you have! Why didn’t
you? Because of that little voice in the SubConscious that says “that’s too hard!” – you know the
whiney voice. Or – “I’m too weak” Or – “I just don’t have the will power”
– whiney voice again.
Have you ever noticed we generally use a whiney voice when we’re
using excuses to justify why we haven’t done something that we know we should?
that whiney voice is a habit! Time to kick “whiney” away. And for those of you who want to start a “Stop
the abuse of Whineys” movement, I’m not worried. You’ll come up with an excuse not to. You’re too
busy. It’s too hard. Etc.
Your mind just wandered. Didn’t it? You’re back to
thinking what does this have to do with Groundhog Day?
the same things over and over again and expecting different results just doesn’t work!
As long as you keep on doing the same things – hanging on to the same old habits, your life
isn’t going to change – at least not for the better. And the longer you hold onto a habit – the stronger
Now don’t let that last sentence be your excuse for not changing.
I worked with a 77 year old woman who had been smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day for over 50 years. She started smoking
when she was 12, but said she didn’t get serious about it until around 25. She was able to stop – so no, you can’t
use the excuse you were thinking.
But there are also thought habits which can either undermine our
health and well being, or can help us achieve our dreams.
fact, these are the more insidious type of habits because we’re probably less aware of them.
“Habits are changed by practicing new behaviors,
and this is true for mental habits as well.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer
Let’s look at some of these.
of these sentences are more likely to play in your mind? The first ones or the second ones?
Habitually telling yourself:
“I can do this.”
Or “I can’t do this.”
“This is easy.”
is hard” -- or
even worse -- “This is
“Every day is a good day for me.”
“Every day is a lousy day for me.”
“I’m always sick (or tired, or not feeling well)”
“I can do this!” When you say to yourself over and over “I can do this” –
you’re habitually training your SubConscious to believe you can do things – easily. While others may doubt their
abilities, you have confidence. Why? Because of your habitual thought patterns.
can’t do this.” You’ve probably heard this quote before:
you think you can,
think you can’t,
Or something like that anyway. How many people start off with the
attitude of “can’t?” A lot! Now, isn’t that sad. They’re pretty much defeated before they begin.
“This is easy.” – Again, when you say this over
and over, you’re programming yourself to believe that whatever “this” is, maybe learning a new language,
playing sports, making good grades, etc. – for you is easy. Why? Because you have trained yourself to believe it by
your repetition of the phrase “This is easy.”
is hard” – This person is saying “I haven’t even tried yet, but I already know it’s going to
be hard.” Where did they learn this? Well maybe, just maybe when they were a little kid, they find out that by saying
“this is hard” or maybe “This is too hard for me.” that someone else would do it for them. Doesn’t
work that great in the adult world, now does it?
day is a good day for me.” I like this one. Isn’t it amazing that we generally get what we expect? When we wake
up, whatever our first thoughts are can so easily influence the rest of the day. Wake up thinking you’re going to have
a good day and you usually do. Wake up thinking the day is going to be bad – it usually is!
Now, of course there are some exceptions. You might wake up thinking to yourself it’s going
to be a good day and then a meteor lands on your head or one of those people who think it’s OK to text while driving
just sort of accidentally swerves over into your lane.
day is a lousy day for me.” – yeah – because that’s what the person expects! We create our day by
how we program our thoughts. And for some strange reason (not really strange if you know that your SubConscious mind is programmed
to make the “boss” – that’s you – right, even when you’re wrong) when we think it’s
going to be a lousy day, we look for reasons to justify our belief.
always healthy.” Isn’t it amazing that some people actually EXPECT to be healthy! I’m one of them. I really
can’t remember the last time I was sick or not feeling good. Colds, flus, viruses? Not here!
But this is because I changed my habitual thought patterns. When I was younger (much younger) I did
get colds, flus, and viruses – a lot! Why? Because I expected to.
going to guess you know people (maybe the one reading this???) who just knows that every Spring they get allergies. Every
Winter they catch a cold or get a flu bug.
I’ve even known people who sneezes once or twice on Monday
and knows for sure they’ll be in bed with a bad cold by Wednesday. And it just started with a sneeze! Or they won’t
plan a vacation during a certain time of the year because they “always” get sick during that time. Talk about
negative habitual thinking!
Now, think about that one habit you narrowed it down to when I
asked you to think of some habits you would like to change. Remember – the one that by changing it or getting rid of
it will improve your life the most
Take a few moments and make a list of the ways your life will be
better once you’ve kicked this habit out of your life or even replaced it with a good, healthy habit.
Let’s just take for example the habit of procrastination. How would your life be better without
being bothered by procrastination?
start some projects.
you’d finish some projects.
You could make more sales calls.
* Clean out the closets.
* Balance the checkbook.
* You wouldn’t feel guilty anymore.
* You’d feel more proud of yourself.
* It would boost your confidence.
* You would feel (and be) more productive.
“Men's natures are alike,
it is their habits that carry them far apart.”
Now that you’ve got the “WHY” to change – the motivation, it’s time
to start on the “HOW” to change. . .The best way to STOP or change a habit is:
* Recognize, be aware of the habit.
* Make the decision to stop or change.
* Catch yourself each time the old habit occurs.
* Refocus your thought on the “WHY” you want to change
– your motivation.
* Refer to my ebook “Discover the Hypnotist Within” for some Self Hypnosis tools and techniques
to help you.
You can easily do this on your own. Yes, you can – get the
doubt of your mind. Does it take some effort and commitment? Yes, of course. But you CAN!
And if it would be easier for you to do this with some help, find a qualified Hypnotist to help you.
ome of you are already thinking of an excuse
– “Oh, that would cost money! Probably too much!”
it will cost money if you have a professional help you. Look at your ROI (return on investment). What will it COST you IF
you don’t stop or break the habit? What will the value be WHEN you do stop or break the habit?
The choice is yours!
maybe this was a stretch for Groundhog Day, but doesn’t it make sense when you think about it? Everyday thinking over
and over negative thoughts and having negative habits is only going to create more of the same.
If you’re going to have to repeat and have similarities in your days, wouldn’t
it be better to have them be good?
And that’s my story and I’m sticking with it!