“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen.
Keep in the sunlight.” -- - Benjamin
It amazes me how many people do! They come in to my Hypnosis office
and complain about this Thief, but yet it’s one they personally invited and have been making the Thief welcome for a
very long time.
Who is this Thief?
The Thief’s name is WORRY! If you didn’t already know this, let me explain it to you. Worry is a THIEF! Worry steals
your time when you could be doing something constructive. Worry steals
Peace of mind.
And yet, many people seem to take pride in being a “Worrier”. Have you ever
known someone – maybe the person you see in the mirror – who seems to take such pride in being a “worrier”? In my Hypnosis / Coaching practice, I’ve had people tell me they are the “Worrier
of the Family” or they’re a worrier because it’s genetic.
“Worrying is using your imagination
to create something you don’t want.”
-- Esther Hicks
Really? What family really needs a worrier? Is worrying genetic? No, worrying is a learned trait. The person in all probability had a Mother
or Father who exhibited the same negative thought patterns, and the child learned it (not inherited) from them. I’ve
never heard of a Will being read and one of the gifts to be given to the member of the family, was the gift of Worry! Have
Let’s look at the process of worrying:
• The number one rule is you must worry about something that hasn’t happened
yet. If you’re worrying about something that already happened, then you’re remembering and rehashing it –
still a total waste of time.
• It must be about something Negative – of course! Have you ever worried about something good
that might happen? Have you ever worried about winning the lottery? No, that’s called Day Dreaming, which we can talk
about some other time.
Most of the things people worry about, never happen• If they do happen, they’re probably not as bad as they what the person thought they would be.
• Worry doesn’t prevent bad things from happening.
Have you noticed that when Opportunity knocks,
most people ignore the knock? But if Fear, Worry, or Stress even walk by even on the other side of the
street, the same people will open the door and invite them in.
“It makes no sense to worry
about things you have no control over
because there's nothing you can
do about them,
and why worry about things you do control?
The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.” -- Wayne Dyer
One description I’ve heard of worrying
is: Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair and rocking. You may be doing something,
but you’re not going anywhere. Worry is totally useless!
Now, rocking can be very useful.
At the very least, it can be relaxing and calming - a great way to reduce stress!
It can also be used to rock
a baby or small child, or even a four legged furry friend – your dog or cat.
But worry? USELESS!
Well, maybe not completely,
it does cause more Stress. And Stress is one of the factors in many diseases and lowers the immune system. So, I guess you could say that Worry does cause people to buy more medicine, so I guess it does
help the economy in some way.
In my opinion, that’s not a very good reason to worry.
Am I going to worry about that? No, I just
don’t seem to find time for Worrying. And then I would have to wonder if the worry caused enough stress for the person to get sick and therefore
miss work, being less productive.
So far, I’ve never had a client come into my Hypnosis practice and ask me if I
would help them Worry more. Would I help them worry more? No, I’m ethical.
I have had a lot of clients come in to help reduce worry and stress and that’s
something Hypnosis and Alpha Process Coaching can be effective in helping people change.
How’s the best way to end the “Worry Cycle”?
Gain Confidence! Practice being Confident!
Yes, it takes practice. A Worrier didn’t become a Worry Master overnight – that took practice and repetition
too! And yes, Hypnosis and Coaching is an excellent way to boost Confidence
and Self Esteem.
Another good way to end the “Worry Cycle” is to practice Day Dreaming.
Day Dreaming at the very least
is entertaining and relaxing. It can also be used to help you achieve a goal or dream. Let’s say your dream / goal is to take a trip to Hawaii. By Day Dreaming
about it, you just might find yourself on the internet looking at vacation packages, and then next thing you know, you’ll
be looking at ways to afford your trip, and then you’ll be there on the beach enjoying the results of your Day Dream.
Send me some pictures!
“Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.” - Swedish proverb
And that’s my story and I’m sticking