we call the secret of happiness
is no more a secret than
our willingness to choose life.”
Hypnosis and NLP can be used to help people regain control of their life –
only if they WANT to. If they want to continue to blame others or to make excuses, then Hypnosis is not going to help.
Here’s a tool I use with my Hypnosis / Coaching clients in my Dallas / Fort Worth Metroplex office:
Life is Like an Elevator
Life is like an elevator – it goes UP and it goes
DOWN. When you’re on the elevator, it’s up to you to push the button for UP or DOWN.
you get on the elevator and before you can push the button, maybe you stand there too long and someone else punches the button,
and then you’re going DOWN or UP, depending on which one they punched.
What if it goes DOWN because of someone else’s action,
and you didn’t want to go DOWN? You could get off on that floor and complain that you’re not happy where you are,
but what good would that do? Or you stay on the elevator and push the UP button (you take action).
And if they push the UP button, but you’re not ready or willing to go UP, then you’re not going to get
off on that floor – you’ll go back DOWN to the level where you want to be, or think you deserve to be.
It’s YOUR LIFE! Punch the right button – take the right actions to get to whatever level you want to
be. The level that helps you feel the happiest. Some people prefer, or settle for, the Victim level – blame everyone
else level. Others expect, and demand the Victor level – I’m in charge of my life level.
And of course you could stay where you are, and do nothing, and wonder why you’re going Down and not going
UP. It’s all about taking action. Words create Thoughts. Thoughts create Actions. Actions repeated over and over create
Behaviors. Behaviors soon become Habits. And Habits create our level of Life.
Wherever you are at this moment in your Life, it’s
the results (or consequences) of the decisions you made, or the actions you took. Where you will be tomorrow, next year, the
rest of your life, will be the result (or consequences) of the decisions you make and the actions you take now.
people live in a world of blame and excuses, others live in a world of confidence and positive expectations.
It’s up to you and no one else. Others can help, but only you have the real responsibility
of making the Life you want.
“The two most important days in your life
the day you are born…
and the day you find out why.”
With Hypnosis, NLP, and Alpha Process Coaching, I help people realize the importance of taking responsibility
for their lives – without excuses or blame.
The more we blame
others, or make up excuses, that a reasonable person wouldn’t ever believe, the more we give up our responsibility for
Now, how about You? Have you ever been on an elevator and the door opens
and you automatically step out? And then you notice – “Hey, this isn’t the floor I want!”
Do you whine and blame someone else that punched the button – even though you’re the one that got off the elevator?
Or do you get back on the elevator when the door opens again with the intention of going to the floor you originally
"There are two primary choices in life:
to accept conditions as they exist,
or accept the responsibility for changing them."
But what if the floor you want to go to is above this one, but when you get on
the elevator is going down now? Do you give up and say, “Oh well, I wasn’t meant to go up anyway?
I’ll just get off on a lower floor and be content?”
I certainly hope not!
I bet you know people like that! I know I do. In fact, I originally
wrote “Life is Like an Elevator” for a particular friend who lives his life as a “VICTIM”. It’s
never his fault for the choices, decisions, and actions he takes that don’t work out. It’s always someone
else’s! – at least in his mind.
When I gave it to him to read, his response was – “Well, I’m
sure that’s good for SOME people, but that way of thinking just wouldn’t work for me.” Was I surprised?
No. Was I disappointed? Yes!
But after looking at it, I realized it could be helpful to others – friends
and clients. And I’ve gotten a lot of positive responses from people who told me this was an eye opener for them.
They used it to take responsibility for their Lives! And that makes me very happy!
How about you? Are you ready to be responsible for your life? Or would you rather go on blaming others
– or even the “Universe” for conspiring against you? ...My belief is others and the “Universe” are conspiring with / for me to make my life better and to allow
me to help others move forward in their lives as well. It may not be true, but I'm going to believe something positive
instead of negative anyway.
positive direction in life is always a
good way to point Your feet.” Coach
William C. Smith