"Only after we can learn to forgive
ourselves can we accept others as they are
because we don't feel threatened by anything about them which is better than
us." - Stephen Covey
During my Hypnosis sessions I discover that I just seem to know the right things to say during the sessions
with my clients. That’s probably due to my years of experience working with so many people in so many different areas
Many times, I like to use a particular
story – I don’t use “scripts”. My clients need individual work, not something I’m going to read
to them or memorize. And one of the stories I tell – always tailored to them of course - is where they meet their “future”
self – usually on a beach.
Connie was one of my weight reduction clients. She wanted to “lose” 50 pounds. Or at least that’s
what she thought she wanted when we first talked on the phone. Obviously, she had not read the information on my website about
the difference between “losing” weight and getting rid of it.
really wants to “lose” weight, only to find it again? Does that really make sense? And that’s what happens
most times. Do you know anyone who “lost” weight, and then found it again? Maybe you?
Connie didn’t look that much overweight. And she said she
didn’t understand why she was overweight – at least that much. She didn’t eat that much, her job and two
kids kept her physically busy. And she didn’t really eat that many sweets.
She told me she had tried every fad diet and weight loss program out there, and yes, she had
lost weight, and found it again – several times over!
A friend told her about coming to see me for Hypnosis and how it had helped her so Connie thought
day, I was working with her and I could tell she was discouraged. She was making some progress – but not fast enough.
We discussed during her initial session the importance of reducing at the rate of 1 – 2 pounds a week – which
is what most doctors recommend.
But of course, she really wanted me
to wave a magic wand and make the excess weight disappear – just like most people want!
She had at first made good progress, but now she seemed stuck.
So I asked if she would like to meet her future self – the one who had gotten rid of the excess weight. She asked how
we would do that. I said during our Hypnosis session, I’ll introduce you.
During this session, I had her imagine – that’s a big part of Hypnosis –
using the power of the imagination – much more powerful than “will power” - and I told her a story that
started with a walk along a beautiful beach.
Now, I need to condense this down to just the basics or I’ll be writing a longer time than I intended.
As she walked along, she saw a woman walking towards her on the
beach – this woman was fit, healthy, and seemed to be very happy. The woman approached her and introduced herself as
Connie two years ahead of the present time. At some point, I suggested that the two Connies – present and future should
hug each other.
And I told Connie that while she was
embracing her future self, she would feel some wonderful feelings – the first was love, acceptance, and respect –
for herself, her body, and others.
And the second would be forgiveness – forgiveness of her body for putting on excess weight and letting
it stay (or come back), forgiveness of herself for any bad things she had said or thought about herself – and also forgiveness
of others for things they may have said or done – either intentionally or not, real or just perceived.
Forgive those who insult you, attack you, belittle you or take you for granted. But more
than this . . . forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. Unknown.I
told her she never had to tell me or anyone else what those things might be, but that by forgiving, she could let go of the
burden that had been holding her back and keeping her from having the healthy, fit body she wanted to have and deserved to
During this time, I could see there
were some feelings about some of those things. I was quiet for a while. Then I asked her if there was anything she felt she
needed to forgive either of herself or anyone else. She nodded her head yes. When I sensed she was ready to proceed, I started
Then we talked about a feeling of confidence
– the kind of confidence she needed to know, not just think, but know, that she could finally – once and for all
– get rid of the extra weight
Then we finished up by returning to the original wonderful feeling – love, acceptance,
and respect for her body, herself, and others.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that
the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
When we finished the session, she said she realized the weight was there because of something
hurtful her ex-husband had said to her when he told her he wanted a divorce. He told her she was fat and ugly and no man would
ever want to be with her. She laughed and said she realized she wasn’t fat or ugly when he said it and the only reason
she felt that way now was because she was afraid if she ever did start to date again that she would only be hurt again.
I didn’t ask her about the forgiveness, but I have a feeling
the most forgiveness was of herself – for having believed the lies of a jerk and let them keep her from moving on and
“Action is a great restorer and builder
Norman Vincent Peale
Did she get rid of the weight? Slowly
– as I suggested, yes. What reminded me of her story was that I saw her out shopping recently. It’s been over
three years since we finished out work – and she looks great! And she’s dating a really nice guy – one who
isn’t a jerk!
sometimes forgiveness is something that will help us move forward and Hypnosis can help bring that about. I know. I’m
glad I’ve been able to forgive others and glad they are able to forgive me of things – whether real or imagined,
intended or not.
And that’s my story and I’m sticking with it.
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