"Only after we can learn to forgive
ourselves can we accept others as they
are because we don't feel threatened by anything about them which is better than us."
During my Hypnosis sessions I discover
that I just seem to know the right things to say during the sessions with my clients. That’s probably due to my years
of experience working with so many people in so many different areas of Hypnosis.
Many times, I like to use a particular story – I don’t
use “scripts”. My clients need individual work, not something I’m going to read to them or memorize. And
one of the stories I tell – always tailored to them of course - is where they meet their “future” self –
usually on a beach.
was one of my weight reduction clients. She wanted to “lose” 50 pounds. Or at least that’s what she thought
she wanted when we first talked on the phone. Obviously, she had not read the information on my website about the difference
between “losing” weight and getting rid of it.
Who really wants to “lose”
weight, only to find it again? Does that really make sense? And that’s what happens most times. Do you know anyone who
“lost” weight, and then found it again? Maybe you?
Connie didn’t look that much overweight. And she said she didn’t understand why
she was overweight – at least that much. She didn’t eat that much, her job and two kids kept her physically busy.
And she didn’t really eat that many sweets.
She told me she had tried every fad diet and weight loss program out there, and yes, she had lost weight,
and found it again – several times over!
A friend told her about coming to see me for Hypnosis and how it had helped her so Connie thought “Why
One day, I was working with her and
I could tell she was discouraged. She was making some progress – but not fast enough. We discussed during her initial
session the importance of reducing at the rate of 1 – 2 pounds a week – which is what most doctors recommend.
But of course, she really wanted me to wave a magic wand and make the excess weight disappear
– just like most people want!
She had at first made good progress, but now she seemed stuck. So I asked if she would like to meet her future
self – the one who had gotten rid of the excess weight. She asked how we would do that. I said during our Hypnosis session,
I’ll introduce you.
this session, I had her imagine – that’s a big part of Hypnosis – using the power of the imagination –
much more powerful than “will power” - and I told her a story that started with a walk along a beautiful beach.
Now, I need to condense this down to just the basics or I’ll
be writing a longer time than I intended.
As she walked along, she saw a woman walking towards her on the beach – this woman was fit, healthy,
and seemed to be very happy. The woman approached her and introduced herself as Connie two years ahead of the present time.
At some point, I suggested that the two Connies – present and future should hug each other.
And I told Connie that while she was embracing her future self,
she would feel some wonderful feelings – the first was love, acceptance, and respect – for herself, her body,
And the second would be forgiveness
– forgiveness of her body for putting on excess weight and letting it stay (or come back), forgiveness of herself for
any bad things she had said or thought about herself – and also forgiveness of others for things they may have said
or done – either intentionally or not, real or just perceived.
those who insult you, attack you, belittle you or take you for granted. But more than this . . . forgive yourself for
allowing them to hurt you. Unknown.I
told her she never had to tell me or anyone else what those things might be, but that by forgiving, she could let go of the
burden that had been holding her back and keeping her from having the healthy, fit body she wanted to have and deserved to
During this time, I could see there
were some feelings about some of those things. I was quiet for a while. Then I asked her if there was anything she felt she
needed to forgive either of herself or anyone else. She nodded her head yes. When I sensed she was ready to proceed, I started
Then we talked about a feeling of confidence
– the kind of confidence she needed to know, not just think, but know, that she could finally – once and for all
– get rid of the extra weight
Then we finished up by returning to the original wonderful feeling – love, acceptance,
and respect for her body, herself, and others.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that
the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
When we finished the session, she said
she realized the weight was there because of something hurtful her ex-husband had said to her when he told her he wanted a
divorce. He told her she was fat and ugly and no man would ever want to be with her. She laughed and said she realized she
wasn’t fat or ugly when he said it and the only reason she felt that way now was because she was afraid if she ever
did start to date again that she would only be hurt again.
I didn’t ask her about the forgiveness, but I have a feeling the most forgiveness was
of herself – for having believed the lies of a jerk and let them keep her from moving on and being happy!
“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence.”
Did she get rid of the weight? Slowly – as I suggested, yes.
What reminded me of her story was that I saw her out shopping recently. It’s been over three years since we finished
out work – and she looks great! And she’s dating a really nice guy – one who isn’t a jerk!
Yes sometimes forgiveness is something that will help us move forward
and Hypnosis can help bring that about. I know. I’m glad I’ve been able to forgive others and glad they are able
to forgive me of things – whether real or imagined, intended or not.
And that’s my story and I’m sticking with it.