.."No matter how good you are,
you're going to lose
one-third of your games.
No matter how bad you are
you're going to win
one-third of your games.
It's the other third
that makes the difference."
thing to realize, he’s probably embarrassed to be talking about it anyway. Facing the embarrassment
of the thought that his teammates may tease him and his friends might make fun of him. And it took courage for him to consider
Hypnosis for help with this problem.
Now, let’s talk about Blaine, a young athlete, the bed
wetting baseball player and how Hypnosis helped him. Blaine is nine years old. He loves baseball! He would love to go to sports
camps and spend nights at his friend’s house, but can’t. He’s afraid he’ll be embarrassed the next
His Mother called me and asked if I could help him using Hypnosis.
She liked the way I explained how we would be working on SELF TALK, self Hypnosis, and CONFIDENCE in all areas to help Blaine
move beyond this problem. I asked her to make a sentence, using the word “problem” in it to tell me what we would
be working with.
She said, “Blaine’s problem is he wets his bed.”
I suggested, “Instead of saying ‘Blaine’s’ problem, how about saying ‘THE’ PROBLEM. I
helped her understand that when she said “Blaine’s problem” she was making it more difficult for him to
get past the problem.
Why would this make it more difficult? Simple logic!
When we say ‘my problem’ we’re saying it belongs to us. Anything that ‘belongs’ to us,
the SubConscious Mind wants to keep and get more of.
Do you think Blaine wants to keep and get more of this problem?” And then I explained how Hypnosis works with
the SubConscious Mind along with the Conscious.
Right away she realized they were going to get a new approach. His parents had taken him to physicians and counselors
and had tried alarms that would wake him up, etc. Hypnosis was suggested by one of my other clients - I had helped her 11
year old daughter to start waking up in a dry bed a couple of years prior.
When Blaine and his Mother came in for their first Hypnosis session, we started talking about what Blaine
enjoyed doing, school, family, sports, etc. We didn’t jump into the “bed wetting” problem just yet. He needed
to RELAX and get COMFORTABLE first.
Then we discussed what he wanted to use Hypnosis to CHANGE. Blaine
said he wanted to stop wetting his bed. He and his Mother were both surprised when I told them; I really didn’t want
to do that. I explained that would be focusing on the problem. I believe in focusing more on SOLUTIONS instead.
So we agreed to work on helping him wake up in a DRY BED – and dry pants –
he had to wear special underwear to minimize the consequences.
I asked Blaine who his favorite pro BASEBALL PLAYER is. We talked
about why he was his favorite. Then I said, “OK, now for a SERIOUS question, Blaine. How EXCITED would you be if you
won a contest and got to spend a day with him, including having dinner with his family, and spending the night?”
His face went from excited to a worried look. I asked him if he would be worried
he might embarrass himself if he spent the night. He nodded. Then I asked if he would ALLOW me to help him use Hypnosis to
put this problem BEHIND him so he would NEVER need to worry about that embarrassment again. He agreed and we got to work.
“I became a good pitcher
when I stopped trying
make them miss the ball
and started trying
to make them hit it.”
During his first Hypnosis session, I offered suggestions about
REMOVING obstacles and FINDING solutions, EASY solutions, like reminding him how NATURAL it was to go to sleep and to wake
up – without him having to think about it. How he easily plays his BEST BASEBALL – NATURALLY. How he naturally
BREATHES without having to think about it.
And how NOW, he could go to sleep, WAKE UP if the need arises, take care of the need, go back to sleep, and then wake
up in a DRY BED – without the need of the protective underwear.
The next Hypnosis session, Blaine told me he thought he was making some progress. His Mother disagreed saying
he had still wet the bed every night. I told them both, let’s CELEBRATE the PROGRESS that Blaine is working on the SOLUTION,
but maybe the DRY BED results weren’t quite there YET, but the dry bed WOULD come. Blaine looked relieved. Even though
the Mother agreed, I could still see some doubts in her eyes.
I insist on a parent being in the room with us when I work with young clients. Why? First, I want my young
client to feel safe and comfortable. Second, I want the parent to learn the tools I’m teaching my
young clients and I want them to help REINFORCE the work we do together, rather than sabotage the work we do with negative
Here’s a situation that is a perfect example of how a parent
could sabotage their child at home if they didn’t know what we were talking about during our sessions. A
young gymnast had developed a fear of a certain part of a routine that she had done successfully many times for at least three
years. She was afraid she would be injured. Her Mother kept telling her “Don’t
Unfortunately, the 12 year old girl was then focused on fear,
instead of confidence. When we say “Don’t” do anything, that’s where the SubConscious
Mind goes! Have you ever noticed that if you tell a young child, or even a teenager – “Don’t
slam the door!” They usually slam the door?
“Use your words carefully,
because the words you use today
influence your clients today
and twenty years from now.”
OK – quick parenting lesson here. What
should you say instead? How about “Close the door slowly.” or “Close
the door softly.” Or “Close the door quietly.” Then you’re telling
them what you want instead of what you don’t want. The door may still get slammed just out of habit,
but you’ll be surprised to find out that pretty soon, they get the message and do what you told them to do.
Blaine and I talked a little more about baseball. And then I
asked him to start thinking about this problem (after the first session, we never talked about bed wetting again – only
“the problem”) in BASEBALL terms. EACH morning, he would EVALUATE his PROGRESS either as a STRIKE OUT (wet bed)
or a HOME RUN (dry bed). He and his Mother liked this idea.
With each session, he made progress and on his last visit, I read the progress reports from Blaine and his Mother. Both
of them proudly wrote that Blaine had FIVE consecutive HOME RUNS in the last six days since our last visit – he had
never had two consecutive dry nights before. We did some future pacing during this session seeing himself putting this problem
BEHIND HIM once and FOR ALL and USING the TOOLS he LEARNED during our visits to IMPROVE his baseball game AS WELL.
Please go back and reread the article, noticing the words in ALL CAPS. These were
emphasized during the session and were instrumental in how I helped a baseball player stop wetting his bed.
Now, how could you use some ideas you got from reading this article to make your
life better? To maybe get rid of a bad habit, be more confident, or just smile more?