“Without continual growth and progress,
words as improvement, achievement,
and success have no meaning.”
Sean, one of my local Dallas / Fort Worth Sports Hypnosis clients –
a golfer – came in for his visit last week. We’ve been working on building up his Confidence
on the golf course.
He asked me if I remembered a question he asked during his first session.
He had asked several questions, as most people do, and even though I was pretty sure I knew which question he was referring
to, I asked him to remind me.
He laughed and continued filling out his progress
report. That’s how we start our visits. Each of my clients fills out a “progress” report. It tells me what
tools they’ve been using that I taught them, how the tools are helping, and what progress they’ve noticed.
Some of the progress will be directly related to
the work we’re doing, in Sean’s case, lowering his golf score, and some may be in areas they weren’t expecting,
but are glad for anyway.
And of course, they tell me if they’re listening to the Hypnosis
CDs I give them and what benefit they’re getting from the Hypnosis CDs.
Now first, you may have noticed we’re discussing
a “PROGRESS” report. It’s called that for a reason, and the word “Progress” is in the title
at the top of the page.
I could just ask “how are you doing?”, but I’ve
found that the word “Progress” moves the mind into thinking in that direction. And they know that each time they
come to visit, there will be a new “Progress” report and more “Progress” will be discussed –
setting up the expectation of making positive changes.
“Progress comes from the
use of experience.”
What are some of the additional benefits they may
Many of my clients tell me – no matter whether
we’re working on Sports Confidence for golf, hockey, football, or any other sport – they find out besides increasing
their confidence, lowering their score for golf or better performance in their sport, they also notice they’re sleeping
better, reducing stress, and just seem to be happier and healthier.
And the progress report also helps me determine
how best to help them during that particular session. My Sports Hypnosis practice is tailored to the person. Although there
are similarities in the work I do with my clients – each one is different and each one gets a program modified to work
OK – I got sidetracked -- Back to the client’s
question. During his first visit, he asked me if I could make him play golf like a pro. Now considering he was 52 years old,
was hitting in the MID 90’s on good days, seldom practiced or played, what do you think I told him?
I said “sure, if you’re willing to
spend the next ten years practicing your golf swing and putting for several hours a day, and start playing on a regular basis.
I could tell that wasn’t really the answer he wanted. So I asked him if he had the ABILITY to play like a pro along
with the COMMITMENT to do what’s necessary to play at that level.
He realized it took more commitment than what he
had the time or desire to get to that level. So after a little discussion, I asked him what kind of golfer I could reasonably
help him become.
He thought about it and said he wanted to have
more fun and his goal was to play consistently in the low 80’s. I suggested he play only in the Spring.
He laughed and said he meant a golf score
in the low 80s – consistently!
One of the first things we had to
do was get him to imagine himself playing at that level. At first, he said he couldn’t even imagine
it! I disagreed with him and told him he even disagreed with himself as well.
He looked at me with a very bewildered
look – that’s OK, I’m used to getting those kinds of looks. And asked me what I meant.
I told him if he couldn’t imagine
himself doing it, he never would have called me after his doctor referred him to me and he wouldn’t have even come in.
Why did his doctor refer him to me?
Because Sean was on the brink of
hypertension, diabetes, and was constantly stressed. His doctor knew Sean played golf and knew that golf
would get him out in the fresh air and the beauty of Nature and would help him not only get some needed healthy exercise,
but also would help relieve some stress.
And yes, his doctor has been a client
as well – for hockey. His doctor plays in an adult hockey league.
is a wonderful metaphor for life.
Of all the sports that I played
skiing, baseball, fishing
- there is no greater example than golf,
because you're playing against
some practice, he began to imagine himself enjoying golf more and playing better. He even imagined how
he would feel when he won in a charity golf tournament his company sponsors each year.
As he began to imagine his
golf game improving on a regular basis, then he began to imagine each swing – smooth and fluid. In
fact, he started using smooth, solid, sweet, swing as part of his pre-swing thought routine.
I always teach my clients how to do Self Hypnosis
correctly and Imagination is a big part of it. I also teach them how to do mental rehearsals of their swings - practicing
several times during the day and maybe just before they go to sleep at night to get the "mental feel" of relaxed
alertness while playing golf....
And that’s what he’s been doing lately! He learned to enjoy the game of golf more.
And his ability level has increased! He’s even referred a couple of his golfing buddies to
me. Why? He said he got tired of hearing them whine about how much his game had improved
and what a disadvantage they had against him. Besides, he’s a natural competitor and enjoys it more
when he’s playing against someone who challenges him.
So what kind of Golfer or Athlete of another sport do you want to be?
And do you have the commitment, along with the ability to make it happen? And when you do decide that you want to play better
golf or any other sport, let’s talk!